Beginners guide to bondage

Bondage or BDSM is an exciting sexual trend has now become mainstream. Ever since the worldwide success of “Fifty Shades of Grey” everyone’s girlfriend, boyfriend, lover or friend with benefits has felt comfortable to admit that sometimes they enjoy a bit of a spanking or restraining. For all you beginners out there, here are a few guidelines to help you to engage in bondage without freaking you out too much.

Comfort Levels

It is always difficult to know your own comfort level if you have never tried certain things before. Maybe you would like to be handcuffed but are not comfortable being blindfolded at the same time. Take it slow and share any concerns you may have with your partner. As you tip toe further into the world of bondage your comfort levels will evolve.

Take an Open Mind

Being open minded and willing to try different things is crucial to a pleasurable bondage experience. You cannot share your deepest, sexiest fantasies withhold a non judgmental agreement. Take a pact not to judge and then push each other in the direction you want to go.

Dominant or submissive

Talking about what roles you may like to play will allow you to dive deeper into your sexual fantasies. People who are ordinarily dominant may like to experience being submissive in private or vice versa. Never assume your roles set in stone & take turns if you are unsure of which role you might like to play.

Choose a safe word

Before you begin your experience, agree on a safe word. If either of you gets caught up in the moment, it can be hard to notice that your partner is not comfortable with the current experience. Choose something fun like Rumpelstiltskin, or Aubergine. Even if you never use the word it will provide comfort & confidence.

Bondage Gear

Do you think the fuzzy shackles or the stainless steel cuffs are sexier? The range of bondage gear & adult sex toys is vast & the best way to discover what turns your partner on is to go shopping together. Whether it be at your local high street or more discretely in the comfort of your own home at the online sexEstore There is much fun to be had with selecting the tools of your trade.

Pillow Talk

Communicating to your partner about what you enjoyed or didn’t like will help make your next bondage experience better. Some may find the first bondage experience awkward or uncomfortable & talking it through is an integral part of ultimately becoming more confident with it. Recall & discuss what you found most enjoying and insert this into your regular sexual diet. As you both become more experienced your likely to adopt more sex toys & take things a step or two further.

Bondage sex can be an extremely pleasurable but sometimes intimidating experience. Take it slow, follow these simple guidelines & you’re bound to have a sex’E’ time!

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